“Potential”

And then there is “Potential”  .. Definition ~ Capable of being but not yet in existence ~ promising thinkable, undeveloped, unrealized, within realm of possibility

I was speaking with the same man friend, and he was trying to develop a relationship with this women. He told her they had “Potential”. And all he meant by that was he could see himself with her long term. To find the “Happily Ever after” She had been in a 39 year marriage. Her Happily Ever After wasn’t there. Her husband left her for a friend of hers. And according to my friend she talked about him a lot. Well long story short, she could not let herself get into a “physical” relationship with my friend. Even after they have been dating almost 3 months. He told me they had so much fun together. Now please keep in mind that these two individuals are over 60. Which is not old by any stretch of the imagination. It's just life is so Damn short.. We must live it to the fullest.  

I thought about what he told me about him and her. I tried to let him know about women.

This is what I said to him.

 If she was to sleep with you, that would be the end of any kind of memory of the relationship she had with her husband of 39 years. This man broke her heart. She is not over that yet. And she can’t let that go, at least not now”

 I know exactly what she is feeling. Knowing full well that when you do sleep with someone        after a long-term marriage or even a long-term relationship, well if that happens then in our heart of hearts that last relationship is dead, FOREVER! And some of us just cannot let go, this woman is not ready. It isn’t wrong or right, I mean the way we look at things but that is how we are. So men need to deal with that. She was just not ready to give up that last Relationship. She wanted a guarantee from my friend. In other words she wanted to make sure she did not get her heart broken again. I felt she was over the line asking that, since they had not even slept together. It could be awful. And you just don’t know what it will be like until you are intimate with a person.. And as I explained to him.. There are no guarantees in life; otherwise I would still have my last relationship in tack. I asked him if he had told her that, and he said yes… that was the 1^st thing out of his mouth when she wanted the guarantee.

This woman has a lot of soul searching to do. It’s sad; because as he said when they started dating he told her they had “Potential”

I don’t think she understood. Even when he explained to her, she just didn’t get it. I hope soon this woman figures it out. So again "Life is so very short, if you find that special someone.. Hang on to them, and For God Sakes don’t let go".
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